How to get your groove back in a relationship

So your relationship is in a rut. It happens, and you’re far from alone. Much like falling into a dry spell, falling into a rut is common — practically inevitable, if you’ve been together for years and years.

Maybe you’re just going through the motions without finding any time to connect. Maybe you’re bored by the same-old routine of snacks and sitcoms after the kids are in bed.

Signs your marriage is in a rut

Maybe you feel like the fun and spontaneity have been sucked out of your marriage by the grind of parenting.

“Relationship ruts happen when we forget to carve out time to care for the needs of the relationship and begin to coast,” says Silvi Saxena, a licensed clinical social worker.

If ruts are identified and addressed, they rarely turn into bigger problems. But, Saxena warns, if complacency sets in, and couples stop appreciating the small things and lose gratitude for the relationship, bigger issues can evolve.

It’s important to remind yourself that a relationship rut doesn’t mean that the relationship is in trouble. Very often, it is simply

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